Meaningful Connections with Others Makes Recovery Possible

Meaningful Connections with Others Makes Recovery Possible | Transcend Recovery Community

The one thing that most people really crave is love. And if you’re a recovery alcoholic or addict, you might feel an absence of love in your life – or at least you did at one point in your life. However, when we have a genuine and authentic connection with another human being we feel seen and understood which in turn helps us to feel loved and accepted.

You might describe connection as an experience in which you relate or bond with someone else. You might also describe it as being meaningful or significant, especially if your conversation strongly resonates with what you’re going through. Yet, you might notice that these types of connection don’t happen with everyone. Perhaps you have a meaningful conversation with someone at your sober living home, but not the person you’re sitting next to in a support group.

Certainly, there are specific factors that help make a connection with another person significant. You might find that those conversations that stood out or that had a deeper meaning for you had the following characteristics:

Attunement – When you are attuned to someone, you feel a stronger connection with them. It’s different than simply saying hello or discussing what you did over the weekend. Attunement describes the kind of connection that a mother might have with her child. There’s a relating with one another that’s deeper than words and hand gestures. Although it’s common to find between a mother and child, this sort of connection can also happen between friends meeting for coffee or a couple out on a date. Attuned communication is when two human beings feel as though they are a part of one resonating whole. It’s possible to even feel this sort of connection with a stranger, if you stay open to it. Attunement is a significant part of healthy relationships, among friends, family members, and lovers.

Empathy – Empathy is the ability to place yourself within the inner landscape of another person. Although it sounds similar to attunement, it’s slightly different. Attunement is mostly an emotional experience; whereas empathy creates a connection that takes into account his or her entire inner world – thoughts, ideas, attitudes. This is a skill that most therapists, counselors, and parents have. And it’s possible that sponsors and drug counselors are also empathetic.

Authenticity – What helps with both attunement and empathy is being authentic. If you’re sharing something about yourself that simply isn’t true, then you’ll miss out on the opportunity to connect deeply and authentically with someone. It’s easy to want to hide facets of yourself, especially if you’re new to recovery. And because most new recovering addicts may still be in the habit of denial authenticity might feel odd. However, being authentic is the gateway for true connection.

Honesty – This might be another challenging part of having healthy connection with others, especially for newly recovering addicts. Yet, honesty again opens the door to true connection. When you’re honest about where you are, even if it’s uncomfortable, then the person you’re communicating with has greater freedom to share their discomfort, challenges, and even successes.

It is through these kinds of deeper experiences with other people that addicts heal. Through personal stories, meaningful relationships, and human connection, we find hope, courage, and the strength to change our lives.


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Recovery Can Include All Members of Your Family

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Addiction is an experience that immediately separates you from everyone else. In fact, addiction even creates an inner separation – from who you really are, from what you want in life, and from your hopes and dreams. Because addiction impairs the relationship with yourself and puts a wedge between you and others, part of the healing process of recovery is involving those you love. As you heal from addiction, there’s a greater chance your relationships with others will also heal.

And it’s important to have your family around you! Just as you would want your family around you when healing from a physical illness, such as cancer or pneumonia, it’s important to involve your family when recovering from addiction. Family members can boost hope, courage, strength, and resilience. Having your family along with you as you recover can also help you feel supported and keep feelings of loneliness at bay.

In fact, Transcend feels so strongly about surrounding you with family that we’ve woven the presence of family into the recovery experience. For instance, every two months, we facilitate a family weekend, which is an opportunity to reestablish healthy communication, repair relationships, and feel supported by those you love. Transcend also recognizes that even family members will need to recover from the effects of addiction. By providing an opportunity for everyone to get together, healing can take place.

Truth is, making amends is one of the first steps to healing from a family wound, trauma, or significant life event that might have initially contributed to an addiction. And sometimes, it’s not one particular event, it’s simply a dysfunctional family environment. There might have been codependency, alcoholism, or emotional abuse in your family history. Making amends and accepting your life as it was in the past is a necessary part of recovery. And it can facilitate healing.

And that healing can happen on many levels. When relationships within a family get stronger, so do the people within that family. Here are a few healing benefits that come with a healthy and happy family unit:

  • Better communication
  • Feeling supported
  • Feelings of connection and inclusion
  • Decrease in blaming others
  • Greater appreciation among family members
  • Forgiveness
  • Increased experiences of honesty
  • Ability to heal and let go of the past
  • Ability to move on and focus on the future

To help you rebuild your family relationships, Transcend communicates with your family on a weekly basis. We even have a Family Director who can provide you with a new set of language skills to help facilitate better, more effective communication between you and your family members. Our Family Director can also provide you with support in the challenging journey of making amends and reestablishing family relationships. Later in your recovery, you may want to continue to strengthen your family relationships by inviting family members, friends, or other loved ones on regular outings together. You may want to commit to having dinner together regularly. Spending more time together can help build family relationships. If you need to, you may want to mourn together, celebrate together, or even experience forgiveness together.

Family members, friends, and other loved ones are essential for healing from addiction. Involve them in your recovery whenever you can.


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Sober Help is Available, Addiction is Treatable, Recovery is Possible

Sober Help is Available, Addiction is Treatable, & Recovery is Possible | Transcend Recovery Community

Let’s say you grew up in a big city, like Los Angeles. You’ve got friends all over the city, from Venice Beach, Santa Monica, West LA, and Beverly Hills that have become your closest companions. No matter what you’re doing, you’re likely with one of your buddies. And if you’re not, you know when you’re going to be with them again soon.

But for some reason, when it came to getting involved with drugs, you kept it to yourself. And you noticed yourself go through a series of stages that became more and more severe, gradually pulling you into the cycle of addiction.

Perhaps you’re struggling for sober help now. Perhaps you’ve already made the decision to work towards living sober; perhaps you’ve even experienced a relapse or two. If you find a treatment facility and a Los Angeles sober living home, it’s important to know that recent advances in the scientific understanding of drug addiction clearly indicate that the brain has the remarkable ability to recover after an extensive absence of using drugs, even with such a harsh substance as methamphetamine.

Even with prolonged addiction, recovery is possible, albeit difficult. But don’t let that discourage you! Treatment for drug addiction is not unlike treating a chronic illness. It must include the transformation of deeply embedded habits, thoughts, and beliefs. As you continue to seek sober help and spending time with a sober living community, you might find that old and destructive internal patterns change. And as they change, it’s possible you might experience relapse. However, this doesn’t mean that your recovery is impossible; in many cases, a relapse can strengthen your commitment to stay sober.

Assuming that there are no mental illnesses that co-exist with your addiction, then once you enter a treatment rehabilitation center, you’ll find that the primary method of treatment is a combination of medication, behavioral therapy, and addressing any underlying issues (abuse, domestic violence, trauma, or loss) that might have prompted the use of drugs or alcohol in the first place.

Medication can be used in different ways in the recovery process. For instance, it can be a tool to assist the process of withdrawal in the beginning stages of healing. It can also facilitate the brain’s ability to adapt to the absence of the abused drug, and still other forms of medication can help to prevent relapse by inhibiting the brain’s triggers for craving drugs.

Behavioral therapy examines any attitudes, beliefs, and thought patterns you might have that contribute to a dysfunctional lifestyle. For instance, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is a form of psychotherapy that addresses unhealthy patterns of thought that lead to making poor choices. CBT also provides healthier coping mechanisms to help manage challenging emotions, triggering life circumstances, and stress, replacing any old methods of coping that may have furthered dysfunction and stress. CBT can also enhance the effectiveness of the treatment medication and this, in turn, assists with your ability to stay in treatment longer.

Once you’re done with a treatment facility, you’ll likely want to enter a sober living home to continue the sober mentoring you’ve found as well as other forms of help that has supported your sobriety thus far.

If you’re willing to make the commitment to a sober life, despite the challenges, treatment facilities, halfway houses, and sober living homes are available throughout the city of Los Angeles. As mentioned above, even if you were addicted to a harsh drug such as cocaine or methamphetamine, it’s still possible to recover.

This can provide enormous hope to someone beginning his or her journey towards living sober. In fact, hope and the forms of sober help can make all the difference in the world. With the right support, encouragement, and commitment, you can create a drug-free and healthy life.


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