5 Things You Should Look for In A Recovery Community

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A community approach towards addiction treatment is successful because it pits together many individual and unique experiences and journeys, teaching valuable and important lessons to those on the path towards recovery, such as the fact that they are never alone, and that there are many challenges they have not had to face, that others have overcome and grown past. Being in a recovery community for recovery can help people see their journey differently, with different perspectives all around.

Everyone experiences addiction in their own way, and processes it in their own way – while it’s rare for someone in a recovery community to find someone else in the exact same boat, listening to others speak about their experiences can help give the sort of perspective necessary for recovery to intensify.

That is why it is vital to choose the right recovery community when looking for a place for yourself or your loved one to improve and get better in a lasting way.


A Varied Approach

First and foremost, any legitimate addiction recovery institution should recognize that addiction is a varied disease – and it requires a varied approach. There is no one-size-fits-all program that all people in recovery should adapt to – that is a flawed way of thinking, and one that can alienate people and lead them to believe that there is no hope for them simply because they do not mesh well with a single approach.

Some people do brilliantly under the twelve-step program, for example. Others struggle immensely with it, and cannot grasp the concept of a higher power for themselves. Some even feel oppressed under the philosophy. Giving people room to explore diverse ways to heal can help them find a way that truly works best for them – and in a community environment, they can expose themselves to a much larger array of concepts and many ways of thinking.

Often, recovering from addiction means making more than a few drastic changes in life, and this can be quite jarring. It may mean discovering a newfound form of spirituality in life, or even a new religion. Or it may have nothing to do with that form of healing, and instead revolves around forming new relationships with people, and finding pleasure in simple things such as travel and trekking.

Variety is the spice of life – and in addiction recovery, it’s vital towards a successful recipe.


People You Like

The second thing to watch out for is a community and spirit you enjoy being in. If you feel like the atmosphere of your community is not one in which you feel comfortable, then you won’t get very far in your endeavors towards lasting recovery.

Some say that addiction is all about a lack of connection – that some people, especially those struggling with drugs on an emotional level, are lacking a sense of belonging and feel lost and lonely among their usual friends and family. Healing that by bringing you together with people you can relate to and bond with can help mend that fracture and eliminate the emotional sway that drugs hold over you, replacing it with new friendships.

People matter to us in general, even if you don’t care to admit to it. We’re social creatures, and we need people in our lives – from parents to lovers, friends to acquaintances, and even just strangers to pass by daily. One big step in recovery is feeling comfortable among people you care about, bringing yourself to feel secure and confident enough to accept that you are someone others can care about as well.


Things to Do In A Recovery Community

Nothing ruins recovery quite as much as getting bored – in all seriousness, one way to stem the urge to relapse is by keeping yourself busy. Making a schedule, trying out new things, experiencing new sensations, exploring new aspects of living – a hallmark of a good community experience is one where there are many things to do.

Community events, group support meetings, projects, therapy sessions, outdoor activities and more – if your recovery community centers its philosophy around replacing addiction with life and all its real, living joys, then you’ll not only find a way to lasting recovery: you’ll have fun doing so. And fun is important, especially when fighting against addiction or any other mental illness.


Goal-Oriented Recovery

Sometimes, giving life structure is exactly what we need to get out of a rut and into a good state in life. Addiction can easily throw life out of balance and put us on a chaotic and out-of-control track towards total wreckage – from broken relationships to career damage and a spiral of self-destruction. It’s not easy to get back from all of that without falling off the horse a few times – and aside from the massive emotional support that a community can give you, structure from living within a recovery community can also help you develop the necessary discipline to continue staying sober after your initial recovery period is over.

Yes, addiction is a chronic issue – but it gets easier to manage with time, and with the right tools. Goals, scheduling, and structure – these tools are immensely important early on and have carry-over later in recovery as well.


An Agreeable Philosophy

A good recovery community needs to be one where you can feel comfortable, one with people you can feel close to, one with many things to do and with the structure necessary to help you regain control over your life – but most importantly, you must find a community that operates on a philosophy that you can agree with. It’s important to have all sorts of different people around you with different opinions and points of view – but there should be some common ground, and in a recovery community, that common ground needs to be the recovery philosophy.

Every place has its own philosophy, its own pursuit of truth and a reason for its founding. Some places are driven solely by profit – other places are extensions of a founder’s firsthand experiences, shaped by them. While there is nothing wrong with operating a business efficiently and for the sake of profit, making something only for it to make money takes all the soul out of the equation.

Instead, find a sober housing program that seems truly genuine to you, one where you feel that the staff and organizers understand addiction and see you not as just another customer, or just a number on a spreadsheet, but as a person with individual needs and a purpose within the community. When you have found a place like that and begin to call it home, then your journey towards lasting sobriety will be much easier.

Take A Sober Living Self-Evaluation

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When someone moves into a sober living home, they often wonder whether it’s right for them. They might have questions about whether they are making the right choice for themselves. One way to investigate whether joining a sober living community is right for you is to compare your experiences with typical symptoms of addiction.

Addiction can be a dangerous illness. Because it affects the brain and over time the body develops a dependency to the drug, addiction can make a person believe that they need the substance to survive. The physical and psychological dependency upon alcohol or drugs because more and more severe. For instance, someone struggling with alcoholism might find themselves drinking first thing in the morning. A person might also experience drug-seeking behavior that is compulsory, meaning they feel as though they don’t have too much control over it. To have a compulsion means you feel compelled to do something.

Compulsory behavior and other symptoms can be signs that you might be experiencing addiction. And if that’s the case, then you’ll need to get support, including being a part of a sober living community. And this might include living at a sober living home, a place where you can stay sober and safe from substances. Answer these questions to evaluate whether you need to seek professional support and focus on sober living:

  • Are you neglecting your responsibilities at work or home?
  • Do you have any legal concerns as a result of your substance use?
  • Are your relationships becoming more and more challenging?
  • Are you building a tolerance to the drug or to alcohol? (Meaning that you need more of the drug or alcohol to feel the same high.)
  • Do you experience cravings and desires to use?
  • Do you take other drugs to avoid having withdrawal symptoms, when the drug of choice is not available to you?
  • Have you lost control over when you drink or use drugs? (As discussed above.)
  • Do you fantasize about when you can use drugs or drink again?
  • Are you neglecting activities you love?
  • Are you continuing to use drugs or drinking even though it’s making your life worse?
  • Are you hiding things from people from whom you don’t normally hide anything?
  • Are you doing things you wouldn’t normally do because of drugs and drinking?

If you’ve answered yes to most of these questions, it’s important that you begin to focus on sobriety. However, you will likely need to seek professional support to do that. As a part of your focus on recovery, having a safe and sober place to live, such as Transcend Recovery Community, will be important for your long-term sobriety. Transcend offers more than just a home; we are a community of people that believe in health and happiness. We love helping others change their lives so that they are no longer just surviving but thriving in life.  If you believe you are experiencing signs of addiction, contact Transcend to learn about a program that might be right for you.

Why Your Sober Living Home Is a Community for Recovery

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The journey of recovery is not going to be understood by everyone. Sure, you might have friends and even family members who have said they understand how hard it has been for you or that they can empathize with the challenges you’ve had. However, anyone who is not on the road to recovery themselves is not going to fully grasp what it means to be in recovery from addiction.

If you’re living at a sober living home, then there’s a good chance that you’re surrounded by men and women who are on the same trek to get sober and stay sober. There’s a good chance that they’re facing similar challenges, feeling the same emotions, and hoping for the same things. There’s a very good chance that you and others at your sober living home have a lot in common.

Thousands of years ago, human beings lived in their own sort of communities – tribes. They traveled, worked, ate, and slept in communities. They stayed together as a unit because it was necessary to do that to survive. Today, we don’t have tribes; we have families. But even those are breaking down. Children move away, parents get divorced, and families separate. Many men and women aren’t a part of a community at all. They have to seek them out in their churches, sport teams, and social clubs. And others simply isolate, pulling away from other people, perhaps believing that it’s emotionally safer to be alone. But even still, communities can be hard to find, and worse, hard to feel like you’re a part of even if you do find one. In fact, feeling lonely and feeling like you don’t belong is one of the primary reasons why people turn to drinking and drug use in the first place.

And now, here you are: in recovery and in a sober living home, a place that is inherently a community. A place where others are walking the same journey you are. And not only that, you are likely seeing each other in the kitchen or living home of your sober living home, at 12-step meetings, and support groups.

Here’s what a sober living community can do for you:

  • Restores hope.
  • Creates confidence.
  • Combats loneliness.
  • Helps improve self acceptance.
  • Strengthens commitment.
  • Boosts empowerment.
  • Creates a feeling of belonging.
  • Encourages open and honest communication.
  • Provides opportunities to help others.
  • Provides opportunities to witness success and effects of relapse in others.

People crave connection. Desiring connection with others is a natural response. Human being s are social creatures. We cannot live in isolation. Even when we are born we need the assistance of our parents to feed, nurture, and tend to all our needs in order to survive. And that doesn’t change as we get older.

If you’re craving connection with others, but not sure how to start, begin with a simple hello. When you see your roommate, ask her how her day is going. When you see someone at a 12-step meeting, compliment them on how they share at each meeting.

Your sober living home is a natural community. It is in the context of community that people heal, grow, and succeed.


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The Power of a Recovery Community, Because the Opposite of Addiction Is Connection

If you’re new to a sober living home or new to a 12-step meeting, you might feel like you don’t fit in. You might feel odd or like you don’t belong. If you’re used to spending time with friends and people you’re familiar with and suddenly you’re spending large amounts of time with strangers, you might even feel intimidated and nervous. You might feel self-conscious about the things you say and what you do, wondering if your new community of people are going to accept you for who you are.

It’s common for addicts to have a low sense of self-esteem. And those patterns of low self-worth can persist into recovery. However, there are ways to feel better, feel a connection with your new community, and even feel supported by them. It’s so easy to feel uncomfortable going into a new environment, especially if the others have already formed a group of their own. Yet, although it feels odd, there are important tips to remember so that you don’t feel like the odd man out but rather the one everyone welcomes with open arms.

Check in with your own feelings and thoughts. When you’re about to go into a new support group or 12-step meeting, and especially if you’re feeling nervous, notice that some of what you’re feeling is a pattern. You probably always feel this way around new people. You might have patterns of feeling uncomfortable until you get to know someone. It’s important to know that these are simply patterns in your mind so that they don’t bring you down or interfere with making new friendships.

Get to know people before making up your mind about them. When you are feeling uncomfortable in your own skin, it’s easy to be judgmental of others as a form of self-protection. For instance, if you have an interaction with someone and the other person feels cold to you, you might think to yourself, “Well, he’s a jerk.” It’s easy to blow someone off and make up your mind about them without really knowing them. You don’t know if he was having a bad day, upset by something that was said in the meeting or just doesn’t know how to socialize very well. When you’re new to a group, give people a few chances before blowing them off.

Treat those you meet with kindness. It might sound obvious but kindness can go a long way. If you’re used to bantering, making fun of, or even arguing with friends, then kindness might feel odd to you. But as you can imagine, most people respond well to kindness, especially at the beginning of a friendship.

Volunteer your time. Whether you’re living at a sober living home or attending regular 12-step meetings, when you volunteer you show that you care. You send the message that sobriety is important to you. But not only that, you also send the message that you want to help others out too. You want to be there for your peers. Others in the group often appreciate and even admire the volunteers for putting in the extra time and effort.

These are tips for feeling more comfortable in your new sober community.


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Your Sober Tribe Affects Your Vibe

If you’re in recovery then you’re probably meeting new people every day. Every time you go to a 12-step meeting or attend a support group, you might run into someone you’ve never seen before but someone who shares the goals of sobriety and recovery from addiction. And if you reside at a sober living home, then you might have opportunities to interact with and form relationships all your housemates.

But not everyone you meet in sobriety will be your kind of person. Just because they are in recovery, like you, doesn’t mean that you’ll love everything about them. For that reason, it’s important to find your tribe, your network of people that you resonate with. It’s necessary to find the type of crowd that speaks your language and with whom you have more than just sobriety in common.

For instance, you might be an artist. Perhaps you want to connect with other artists and uncover how being creative can support and perhaps jeopardize your sobriety. For so many artists, getting into a creative spirit meant having a drink or getting high. On the other hand, creativity might be healing and spiritually nourishing in recovery. Having a circle of artists around you who are also focused on recovery can be supportive.

Or perhaps you’re lesbian or gay. Over the years, many resources have been created for the sober LGBTQ community. But it wasn’t always that way. In 1969, The AT Center began after 6 gay men met for an Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) meeting and decided to call themselves “Alcoholics Together”. Membership quickly grew through the 1970s and 1980s. In fact, throughout Southern California and even in cities far away such as Boston and New York, the acronym “AT” became synonymous with gay AA. Today, the gay Los Angeles sober living community now knows The AT Center as a significant place for refuge.

Another growing community within sober living groups is one that is focused on wellness. Many recovering addicts place emphasis on yoga, meditation, acupuncture and other holistic practices in their recovery. In fact, some would say that their recovery wouldn’t be what it is without these practices.

And along the same lines, many men and women in recovery rely heavily on their spirituality. They may find their support for sobriety through their church by attending church-related 12-step meetings or bible studies for recovering addicts. They may resonate highly with the emphasis on spirituality in each of the 12-steps.

Community is an essential component to recovery for many men and women. It’s the primary reason behind the recommendation to attend 90 AA meetings in 90 days for new recovering addicts. Men and women find support in the personal stories that reflect obstacles and challenges faced by many in the group. And those stories are strengthened and may have more meaning when there’s a shared worldview or common interests.

If you’re new to recovery, don’t just look to spend time with those who are sober, but find your own unique tribe within the sober living community.


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Forming New Friendships Within Your Sober Community

It used to be that when you were at a party, it was drinking and drug use that brought people together. By sharing in the experience of having a beer or playing a drinking game, you perhaps felt connected to others. Perhaps you felt a sense of belonging.

However, when you’re in recovery, the way to connect with others changes. You’re no longer bonding through substances; instead, you can connect through sobriety. And the place to begin to make friends in this way is in your sober community. Perhaps you are attending a 12-step group, living at a sober living home, or participating in a support group. Whenever you have the opportunity to spark a new conversation, do so. Whenever you feel the slightest connection with someone also working on sobriety, perhaps find the courage to ask them to lunch.

One of the most important parts of recovery is having the support around you to face those challenging moments. And if you’re early in your recovery, there’s a good chance that you have more friends who are still using substances versus friends who are sober. So, now’s the time to make friends and establish new connections.

And the fact that you have sobriety in common may make finding new friends easier. There’s a mutual respect, a kindness that you both show one another, because of similarities in the journey you share. You might be able to more easily trust that he or she is going to be there for you if you call for help. And together you may even be able to laugh with each other over the silly moments on your journey through recovery. When you have a friend in your life, everything seems easier.

Here are a few ways to approach those you may want to be friends with in your sober community:

Volunteer at your 12-step group – When you volunteer, you’re often asked to arrive early and/or leave a little later than everyone else. Before and after meetings are a great time to begin a conversation with someone. And often these conversations happen naturally when setting up for a meeting or taking things down. Volunteering immediately puts you in touch with others who care about sobriety too.

 Be brave and ask someone out for coffee or tea – If you didn’t want to volunteer, but you want to make friends, you may simply need to muster up the courage to approach people. Perhaps you’ve seen someone at meetings, or perhaps you’ve even had one or two conversations with them. Lots of other people feel just as uncomfortable about reaching out and making new friends as you do. If you have the courage you can be the one to break the ice. The worst that person can do is say no and at least you’ve tried. And on the other hand, if he or she says yes, then perhaps you’ve got a new friendship in your life.

Make it a point to introduce yourself. If you don’t have the courage to ask someone out for lunch, you can at least introduce yourself. Sometimes, friendships form simply when people see you enough. When you’re introducing yourself whether it’s at support groups or 12-step meetings, your face will become more and more familiar and people will be more willing to open up to you.

These are suggestions for forming new sober relationships. When you have recovery in common, you may immediately have something that no two other people share. Plus, recovery is hard to do alone. Having friends in your life eases the journey of recovery.


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Sober Living Success: Prevention Is the Key

When a person goes into recovery, resides in a sober living home, and eventually develops a new and different lifestyle, they learn to stay sober through friends, family, and a large network of professionals assisting them. A person in recovery slowly learns to live life not only in a sober way but in a healthy way. They might not only learn how to avoid cravings but they also learned to change their thought patterns, feel grateful for what they have, and take good care of themselves. Their life in recovery is much different than their life as an addict.

But what if efforts were made to help people avoid the whole dangerous cycle of addiction in the first place? What if there were educational and prevention programs that assisted people to maintain sober living from the start? What if there were organizations that helped people steer clear of drugs and alcohol?

Well, there are. And research shows that these programs are incredibly effective. Those efforts that involve family, schools, communities, and the media are incredibly effective in reducing drug and alcohol abuse. Research has shown that when people perceive drug use as harmful, they reduce their alcohol and drug intake. Because of this, one of the most effective preventative measures is to educate the public on various substances as well as their negative health consequences. Once people realize that taking drugs can produce medical as well as mental health problems, they are more likely to avoid them, even when faced with stressful moments.

In fact, research points to the fact that addiction is entirely preventable. With the right education a person can completely avoid the dangerous cycle of addiction and the need to start over again with sober living. Instead, they can maintain a sober life from the start. If you have a friend, loved one, or family member for whom you’d like to help prevent addiction before it starts, these are suggestions to consider:

Communicate: Talk to your friend or loved one about your feelings. Let them know that addiction is entirely preventable. It only takes saying no to drugs from the start.

Listen: Hear your loved one out. What are the reasons behind their desire to drink or use drugs? Perhaps it’s feeling overwhelmed by stress or grief, perhaps they feel pressured by coworkers. Or perhaps they simply enjoy the high or buzz they experience. Whatever the reason is, your loved one or friend deserves to be heard.

Set a good example: Although you might think setting a good example means to do so for a child, you can also model sober living for a friend or loved one too, regardless of their age. In fact, you can show them that it’s entirely possible to live an exciting life even without the use of substances.

Strengthen your friendship or bond: Experts are aware than when a person feels heard and understood in a relationship and when that relationship is caring and loving, a person will tend to avoid drug and alcohol use. Also, a strong bond between you and your loved one has been shown to reduce the likelihood that a person will use drugs.

Prevention means not using drugs in the first place, and the best way to curb addiction is prevention. Consider the four above tips for preventing drug use and addiction in loved ones, coworkers and community members.


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Tips for Facing Heartache and Sober Living at the Same Time

With a breakup, sober living can easily turn into living with cravings. You miss her. She’s not coming back and when the pain of her absence hits you,  so does the desire to drink. When you’re going through all the things you wished you said and replaying your last conversation in your head, those cravings may continue to resurface. So, how can you face a breakup and maintain sober living at the same time?

Here are a few tips to make it through the challenges of a breaking heart:

Watch movies: Sometimes, we need to hear the stories of others. We need to touch upon the dark circumstances they faced in order to have compassion for ourselves. Movies are an easy way to see the intimate experiences of others and how they overcame challenges, especially when it comes to heartache. In fact, you might be able to find a movie that highlights the challenges of sober living and relationship breakups.

Set up a support network:  Heartache can bring loneliness. Although there are times when you may want to be alone while you heal, you may also want to have friends and family around. In order to support sober living, you may want other recovering addicts around you who are a step or two ahead of you, those who have been through the difficulties you might be experiencing now. In fact, you may want to share your story of heartache among a sober community so that you can feel supported and held by others who are also in recovery.

Recognize that it’s going to take time to heal. Healing from heartache isn’t going to happen overnight. It’s going to take days, months, even years. Knowing this from the start can help inspire compassion and tenderness towards yourself. Knowing that it’s going to take awhile can help build a sense of acceptance with where you are right now. This kind of acceptance can help you feel more prepared for sober living. You might feel like you have a greater capacity to face and ignore cravings when they come.

Take good care of yourself. When you have at least an hour a day devoted to yourself, you send the message to yourself that you are worth it. That you are deserving of love and care, regardless of the circumstances you just went through. Sober living requires care.  When we have moments in our lives that help “fill our cup”, so to speak, we are then able to be there for others as well. For instance, if you’re in a 12-step community, you know that part of recovery is  supporting others in their process of getting and staying sober.

These are a few tips for facing heartache. If you’re in recovery, especially in your first year, a relationship breakup can be hard, and it can put you at risk for relapse. However, it doesn’t have to. Use these tips to support your sober living. If you need to, contact a mental health provider for additional support.


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Sober Living Requires Love

If you’re someone who is not used to experiencing love, then you might think the idea of love as a requirement for recovery is odd. But think about it. Just getting help for yourself when you hit rock bottom is love. Calling for help when you wanted to quit drinking is love. Attending meetings on a regular basis is love, and starting to build a new life for yourself is love. Love is really all the things you’re doing to keep yourself well. And you likely started doing those things because what you were doing wasn’t working.

Addiction can wreak havoc on a person’s self esteem. It undermines a person’s ability to love, especially themselves. In fact, addiction is a form of self-harm. To get help, to live at a sober living home, find new sober friends – these are all forms of self-love. For those who have struggled with an addiction, it’s easy to have negative thoughts about your self-image, body, intellect, or any other part of your life, especially in a culture that can be stigmatizing towards those who don’t have an ideal life. At the same time, when you have a low self esteem, your negative feelings about yourself can multiply. Your belief in yourself can worsen. And there can be a destructive and negative cycle with self-esteem and addiction.

Sober living not only requires self-love but it also asks that you love others. When you get sober, you’re not just sober for yourself, but for the sake of others too. Addiction frequently ruins relationships. It can slowly eat away at the trust between two people, until eventually a friend or loved one doesn’t want to spend time with you anymore. However, with sober living, you begin to want those friendships and family members back in your life. You want to amend what happened in the past. You might even notice that when cravings arise you think of your children, spouse, coworkers, and family. You decide not to use because you love them. You decide not to give into the craving because you love your life with them in it.

In a way, sober living also requires love for the world. Whereas when you were addicted, you thought the world was an awful place, with sober living, you might actually enjoy your life. And when you begin to find happiness in sobriety, you might even help others find sobriety too. You want to make the world a better place. You want to give back for all the help and support you received while in early recovery. Although love for the world isn’t required for sober living (unlike self love), it can bring meaning and purpose to your life. Trying to make the world a better place in your own way can make life feel even more fulfilling.

If you or someone you know is struggling with an addiction, think about the presence of love. If you want to get sober, self-love will be the foundation for recovery.


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How to Help a Woman Who Is Addicted to Drugs or Alcohol

When it comes to addiction, women and men are vastly different. Historically, treatment centers haven’t recognized these differences nor have they changed their treatment modalities accordingly. However, today, there are a wide number of sober living homes and addiction treatment centers that are catering to the different needs of men and women. If you are a woman or you know of a woman struggling with addiction, this article will address some key components to a successful recovery.

First of all, it’s important to know that men and women do not respond to stressful experiences in the same way. Typically, when men exceed their stress level, they tend to retreat into their cave, such as going into the garage to work on their projects. Yet, women who have gone beyond their stress level tend to do the opposite. They don’t retreat; they seek out someone to talk to. Women tend to want to talk out their thoughts and feelings. However, if women don’t find someone to talk to, they can be vulnerable to coping with their stress in different ways – including through the use of drugs and alcohol.

For those women who do choose to manage their stress through substances, they might eventually try to hide the fact that their drinking or drug use has become an issue. The stigma of substance abuse is a problem for many women struggling with addiction. In fact, the stigma and the associated shame keep them from seeking treatment. But in addition to the stigma, there are some very real matters that keep women from getting treatment. These include:

  • Fear losing custody of their children.
  • Can’t find a way to take care of their children while in treatment.
  • Can’t find a treatment center that can help them with financial resources.
  • Can’t find a treatment center that is culturally appropriate for them, as in having Spanish-speaking staff.
  • Don’t want to enter treatment while pregnant.

The Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) suggests that addiction treatment centers and sober living homes should consider a woman’s needs, the severity of the addiction, and her financial situation. Studies show that once a woman enters treatment, she is just as likely as a man to stay in treatment. However, there are certainly factors that will keep her in treatment, such as the presence of childcare, a collaborative approach to treatment, and a supportive environment. Also, treatment centers that can help a women find work and can help with other areas of life tend to also help a woman stay in treatment. Studies show that women who are employed and have support systems will have fewer relapses and will be more likely to maintain their sobriety.

Also sober living homes and treatment centers that are for women only also show a high success rate. In these healing environments, women can be mutually supportive by relating to one another and sharing personal stories. And, SAMHSA recognizes important factors that play a role in the sobriety of women, which include having a support significant other, having a family that cares, being older, and having at least a high school diploma.

These are the factors that can help a woman get sober and stay sober. Perhaps educating women on these key points can facilitate their recovery from addiction.


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