The first time Darci got drunk, it felt really good. She had a rum and coke in her hands and she could feel the alcohol coursing through her veins. Her face was a little numb; life was good. Life was great even, at least when she had a drink.
Alcohol was the perfect getaway for Darci. It was a doorway to fun, fantasy, and being far away from trouble. She often found herself in an abusive relationship and couldn’t figure out, despite all the therapy she did why this was the case. Yes, she knew she had a pretty low level of self-esteem, but changing that seemed too large a task. Drinking was easier and more fun!
Yet, one morning Darci woke up next to someone she didn’t know, and her body felt as though she was run over by a train. Although she can’t really pinpoint it, it’s likely Darci was forced into a sexual experience she didn’t want to have the night before. She looked around the room and there were pills on the counter and empty bottles on the floor.
That night, two years had passed since Darci had her first drink. Her drinking started out innocently with one or two drinks when she went out with friends and grew to drinking every day, sometimes even in the morning. Darci knows that her life is a mess: she’s unemployed, raising three children, and in and out of violent relationships. That morning, after getting home, Darci made the decision: she had had enough; it’s time to get sober!
Darci looked for a Los Angeles sober living homes, and found one that was for women only. After doing a little research, she discovered the following:
- Women might use drugs or alcohol to self-medicate or help regulate intense or uncomfortable emotions that stem from a distorted and unhealthy sense of self. Furthermore, many women are attempting to achieve a certain body image that the media perpetually emphasizes as being ideal. As a result, in an attempt to lose weight, use diet aids that contain amphetamine and over time develop an addiction to amphetamines.
- Although developing an addiction to amphetamine isn’t true for all women, females who have been sexually or physically abused are more prone to developing an addiction. They might be unconsciously attempting to manage the intense feelings, such as powerlessness, that frequently accompany unresolved trauma. A woman might find escape in drinking or drug use from feelings such as shame, anger, resentment, hurt, or unworthiness.
The feeling of reassurance that Darci felt after reading this pointed out to her that she wanted to go to a Los Angeles sober living home that was specific to women. Besides, if she was really going to get sober, she didn’t want to have the presence of men around and the possibility of any romantic relationships. Darci knows that when she’s in a relationship, she has a hard time focusing on herself. She will likely forgo getting sober in order to avoid losing the relationship.
And sure enough, Darci later read this:
“A woman might be more resistant to recovery, even though she is participating in drug treatment, because the dynamics of co-dependency, enabling, and powerlessness are common among those who are prone to addiction and who know these patterns in family relationships. Healing from an addiction is really also healing from dysfunctional relationships which might require a kind of surrender that a woman might not be willing to do when under the influence of a man.”
For Darci, getting clean meant going to a Los Angeles sober living home that is for women only!
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