There is a proverb that asks, who will climb the mountain and who will sustain himself to stay on the mountain?
Throughout my life, I have struggled with the “sustaining” part. I pour intense passion and excitement into things at the beginning, but when the initial rush fades, progress stalls with it. One project or commitment gets traded for the novelty of a new one, or the fire simply dies out. And the cycle repeats itself.
Most of us do this. We make wholehearted commitments. Our dedication is strong and unswerving. Our hearts and minds are totally on-board. And then, before we even realize it sometimes, the resolution gets broken and the project or commitment abandoned.
But why? And more importantly, how do we disrupt the cycle? How do we truly set ourselves up for success?
Well, if you’re like me, I immediately give myself credit for the initial commitment. Even without any action behind it! I’ll ride the initial wave of adrenaline and endorphins that accompany each new venture. But when my adrenaline and endorphins drop, so does the venture.
As I have found, success is an intense marathon. And endeavors, both big and small, often require support. They require a plan of action with checkpoints in place.
In order to sustain the marathon, to push through the discomfort or fatigue, we’ve got to create accountability. I do this by setting up accountability partners at the beginning of a new project – a phase when I don’t need external motivation. That way, when my interest wanes, when there’s not as much excitement to sustain the effort, I have people who can keep me in check. Who can steer me back on the path. And ensure I continue the trek.
As the proverb says, there is the climb, and then there is the work of staying there. There is the sprint and then there is the marathon. Gratification comes from seeing something through from start to end. From repeatedly showing up for your commitments and realizing potential. This week, protect your commitments by setting up a community of accountability. It could be one friend, a co-worker, a family member. The point is to share your goals with others who will hold you to your word. And keep you accountable to the goals that you set forth.
Accountability, Community, Unconditional Love.
-Asher Gottesman, CEO & Founder of Transcend Recovery Community