What To Do If You’re Craving Drugs or Alcohol After Recovery

How To Deal with Drug or Alcohol Cravings

Craving drugs or alcohol after beginning the journey of recovery is almost a given. A force which so powerfully guides our lives of addiction is not going to give up without a fight. When cravings and temptations to return to your life of addiction arise, there are proactive steps to take toward defeating them.


Reduce Cravings Through Interaction With Others

For those who are prone to do better in life with the consistent input of others, times of craving drugs or alcohol will be best spent interacting with the loved ones and positive influences in your life. Depending on how you have constructed your social circle of recovery thus far, you may find that one group helps you more than others, or that different groups of people help under certain scenarios. Have your contact list ready, ahead of time, and decide which social support will offer the best relief when the cravings strike.


Seek Help From Family

If you are someone who has been blessed with a supportive family structure, resist cravings through spending time with these special people. A healthy family member will bring a positive perspective into your circumstance, and will be honest without being judgmental. He or she can assist you in reducing the instances of experiencing a craving for drugs or alcohol through providing encouragement and a distraction from the rumination that can lead us down the path of relapse.


Seek Help From Friends

As nice as it is to have a supportive family, there are many people who find that there are persistent issues that make family interactions a downer. For these folks, healthy friendships can become the new family structure. Surrounding yourself with friends who have your best interests in mind can assist in keeping you on track with your sobriety through the camaraderie that is shared while you are sober.


Seek Help From A Support Group

Some people who begin the journey of recovery are setting out into new territory. They may have come from a dysfunctional family, and may have not yet formed friendships which do not involve drugs or alcohol. For these individuals, joining a support group can be a great means of starting out on the path of developing a new social network. Many of the people who attend support groups or live in sober living communities have similar stories, and will be able to ease your burden of cravings through extending empathy and providing accountability.


Seek Help From Therapy

Peer and mentor support that is gained through family and friend interactions is irreplaceable. There are times, however, where more professional support is needed. Therapists are professionally trained to assist you in addressing the issues and concerns that you are wanting to face and change in your life. There are therapists who focus exclusively on the task of eliminating the temptation of substance abuse. There are others who focus on the root problems which prompted you to start using drugs or alcohol, in the first place. There are yet others who specialize in assisting you to fix your current problems and design a more viable future.

Do your research, and be picky about the therapist that you decide to spend your time with. You will want to choose a therapist who best fits your personal style. If your insurance options for choosing a therapist are limited, take advantage of your local college clinic or search your local directory for non-profit therapy services. There is also a growing body of therapy which is available exclusively online.


Reduce Cravings By Yourself

While it is very important to have at least one or two people in our lives that we can trust and rely on, no everyone is designed to be a social butterfly. There are some personality types which do better when fighting the majority of their battles in solitude. If you are one of these types, there are several methods for escaping the clutches of drug or alcohol cravings on your own.


Focus On Your Long-term Goals

One of the best ways to resist giving into the temptation to use substances is through remembering why you gave them up in the first place. Most people decide to quit their addictive behaviors on the heels of realizing that any benefits of continuing to use are outweighed by the negative consequences of such. Every addiction has a downside, and the downside of substance use is often devastating. Health, relationships, and livelihoods are frequently lost to addiction. Remember that you have come too far to risk going back into that pit of despair, and turn your focus toward the future steps that you are wanting to take in life.


Utilize Distraction

It isn’t recommended that we engage in activities that continually distract us away from facing problems and issues in our lives. After all, that constant level of distraction from real life is one of the damaging aspects of being addicted. It is healthy, however, to allow ourselves a break from wrestling with unpleasant thoughts or feelings for to long. Distraction techniques have been used by those with emotional disorders and distressing thoughts for quite some time, and can be just as useful when bombarded with the unpleasant temptation to use substances. Distracting yourself with an activity that doesn’t result in the destruction of your life is a great alternative to using. Try working on a house project, completing a word puzzle, or indulging in your favorite television show.


Practice Mindfulness

On the opposite end of the spectrum for ways to deal with drug or alcohol cravings is the application of mindfulness. With mindfulness, we learn to take control of the direction of our internal life. Instead of allowing unconscious fears and desires to motivate us from behind the scenes, we bring those hidden experiences out into the light. Negative thoughts and feelings are acknowledged as existing, rather than being hastily pushed into the background. Allowing them to linger for a moment, while we ponder what it is that we are experiencing, gives us the space to properly address the conditions under which the impressions have arrived. It is a space where you can discover what it is that has triggered you to think in the direction of relapse, and to decide upon different angles of successfully navigating through that temptation without giving into it.


Finding Meaning in Recovery

Finding Meaning In Recovery

Many people who struggle with drug and alcohol addiction do not seek help until the point that the addiction has come to permeate every aspect of life. It begins to affect your marriage, your relationship with your children, your job, and your health. The substance abuse can become such a major part of your life, that you may find that you don’t even know who you are, anymore. Your journey of recovery, in this case, will be twofold. You will be learning to cease the addictive behavior, and you will be learning to develop meaning in your sober experiences.


You Are Not Your Addiction

As you progress in your recovery, it is important to make a distinction between yourself and the behaviors that you have engaged in. Many professionals have decidedly moved away from the concept of referring to someone as an addict or an alcoholic. They have found that identifying someone by such a negative label is counterproductive to providing an environment for change. You will similarly benefit from considering yourself as a person who formerly relied on substances for survival, and not thinking of yourself as an addict. You are so much more than what that label implies.


Discover Yourself

While in addiction, many people are inadvertently avoiding who they are. Being under the constant influence of a substance means that little time is given to introspection or consideration of the meaning of life. Recovery provides the window of opportunity for you to spend some quality time with yourself.  You may be learning, for the first time, what it is that makes you tick, or you may go about the task of rediscovering aspects of yourself that you left behind.  As a famous philosophy saying goes, “the unexamined life is not worth living.” It is only through getting to know our true selves that life becomes full of meaning.


Increase Your Faith

We are living in a time and culture where expressions of faith are widely varied. What each of them have in common is that they provide the faithful with a sense of meaning. Once your brain no longer has the effects of an addictive substance controlling it, you will need to provide it with a new compass. Exploring what you believe about the nature of the universe and our place as humans within it can become a healthy replacement for your formerly misguided efforts. Finding your place in the bigger scheme of things will help you to stay focused when inevitable temptation and frustrations threaten to block your path forward.


Keep Your Mind Open

One of the biggest deterrents to progress is rigid thinking. We can become stuck in our old ways of seeing the world, even when those perspectives don’t produce good results. The nature of addiction illustrates this concept, perfectly. While addicted, a person will continue to think the same things, over and over, even though such train of thinking consistently leads to a dead end. Take some time to consider some of the dysfunctional thought patterns and beliefs that you have been applying to your life over the years, and use this recovery space to be honest with yourself about whether they are working out as you hoped.  It may be time to give some ideas up, and to allow space for new ones.


Practice Resilience

A thing that is certain about life is that there will always be uncertainty. The hallmark of successful people is not how much wealth they have acquired, or how many people they know. The true prize goes to those who have learned how to be resilient. Practicing resilience means that you know how to roll with the punches, and how to not let circumstances throw you too far off course. A resilient person draws on the strength inside that has been gained from years of overcoming hardship, and uses that strength to get back up when the going gets tough. As the old boxing adage goes, you may be down, but you are not out.


Build Healthy Relationships

Once you have reached a point of being proud of who you are, it is time to expand your horizons through allowing others to get to know the real you. Building a social network during recovery means that you are learning how to surround yourself with people who bring value into your life. These people will appreciate you for who you are, and will be genuinely invested in your continued success. The give-and-take of these healthy relationships can provide you with accountability, inspiration, and improved wellbeing, overall. People who have formed healthy connections with others have been shown to live longer, and healthier, lives.


Follow Your Dreams

Many of us can remember what we said we wanted to be when we grew up. It is interesting to compare that childlike dream to where we actually find ourselves as adults. It is more interesting to learn that we are still capable of having that hopeful attitude toward life, even after years of disappointment. Recovery means more than just ceasing the drug or alcohol use. It refers to getting back all of the pieces of your life that the addiction has stolen. Use this time to discover what your unique gifts, skills, interests, and talents consist of. Then, find a way to best utilize them for your healthy advantage.


Give Back to Your Community

It is extremely hard to give to others when we don’t have enough energy for ourselves. One of the natural outcomes of getting our own lives on the right track is that we will find that we simultaneously gain the energy necessary for bringing light into the lives of others. When we are happy and healthy, we tend to want others to experience the same. This life perspective tends to be a far cry from the self-absorption of addiction, and may be the equal-and-opposite life direction which you were always meant to achieve. The old you was a slave to addiction. The new you becomes a willing servant to others.

How Long Does Recovery Last?

How Long Does Recovery Last

Recovery is a term which is increasingly being used by those in the fields of mental health and wellness. To recover from something means that something first had to have been lost to us. In the realm of substance abuse, it refers to a time period of regaining the power over our life that the drugs or alcohol have previously held.

For some, this regaining of power may happen quickly, enabling them to move easily onward through life in a successful manner. For others, the process of recovery may involve a series of slower, purposeful, steps toward maintaining control over the impulses which encourage destructive behavior.  Both the length of time required, and the amount of effort involved, are dependent upon the individual factors which contribute to your unique experiences with substance abuse.


Stages of Change

A primary model of recovery involves the sequential stages that a person will go through along the journey toward wellness. As with most life models, the amount of time spent in any given stage can vary widely. It is also possible to revisit stages which were previously considered to be properly dealt with. The important thing is that all of the stages are completed, resulting in a life that is free from the  negative effects of substance abuse.



As the prefix indicates, precontemplation involves no thought or desire to cease the substance use. A person in this stage of recovery hasn’t yet accepted the fact that the negative effects of using the substance are outweighing the benefits of continuing with it. He or she is either in denial that the substance use is a problem, or is simply ignoring any advice to stop. The time frame for being in precontemplation typically involves no foreseeable change in the substance abuse behavior for the next six months.



You – or others – will recognize that you are in the contemplation stage of recovery once you begin to have second thoughts about continuing to use the drugs or alcohol. As with precontemplation, this stage expects that you will be slowly moving toward making a change in your lifestyle, as evidenced by moving into the next stage within six months. Without eventual movement into the next stage, it could be the case that a person is actually still stuck in precontemplation phase, and is simply giving lip service about having any genuine intention to change.



The preparation stage takes place once a person has given enough genuine thought toward making a change, and has decided to take steps to end the substance abuse. A person may begin to gather resource options, such as by contacting local support groups or rehab facilities. A plan for getting – and staying – sober is made, and is typically initiated within 30 days of entering this phase. Some experts believe that this stage is crucial to successful recovery, and it is reported that half of all people who skip this stage will end up relapsing. Failing to plan is planning to fail.



During the action stage, the plans made during preparation are acted upon. The length of this stage depends on the details of the particular plan, and on the severity of the addiction. For some, it will involve physical detox, followed by extensive cognitive and emotional work. For others, it may only be a matter of following a series of self-help steps or setting up some new habits. As with the previous stages of precontemplation and contemplation, a person is considered to be in action phase for at least six months.



The maintenance phase involves setting the skills and coping mechanisms developed during the action stage into place. New habits take time to be established, and evidence has shown that this time frame can range anywhere from two months to nearly a year. During this phase, only minor adjustments are necessary toward ensuring that you are staying on track with your predefined goals of sobriety. A sober living community is often the answer for people in this stage of recovery as they transition back into everyday life.

Of all of the stages, the length of time devoted to the maintenance stage is the most variable. For some, the maintenance stage will last the rest of a lifetime. For others, two years of successful maintenance is the qualifier for moving on to the next, and final, stage.



Termination stage is a relative newcomer to the model of recovery. It has previously been considered that a person who has struggled with overcoming addiction in the past is perpetually in a state of maintenance. The idea of, “once an addict, always an addict” doesn’t tend to make sense in light of the disease model of addiction. One doesn’t say that he or she is a cancer patient, in remission, once all signs of the cancer have been removed and there is no indication of it returning. After a sustained amount of time of being cancer-free, a person is considered to be cured.

Likewise, a person who has successfully navigated the stages of recovery, and who has rewritten life in such a way that the temptation to reintroduce the destructive nature of addictive substances is eliminated, can be considered free from an addiction. Reaching this stage is entirely dependent upon the confidence level of the individual, and some may feel more comfortable with staying in the maintenance phase, indefinitely.


So, How Long Does Recovery Last?

If one follows the textbook formula for the entire process of recovery, we find that there is a total of 43 months – or 3.6 years – outlined from start to finish. Once the stages have been completed, in their entirety, one is able to switch from the concept of being in recovery, to being recovered. Not all will choose to exit the safety of the maintenance phase, however, meaning that recovery, for them, will be an ongoing process. Yet others may proceed through all of the stages at a much slower, or more rapid, pace. It is important for a person on this journey to develop a keen insight into what is needed for sustained, individualized, success.

Understanding The Importance of a Positive Mindset for Recovery

Positive Outlook for Recovery

It’s on postcards, it’s on get-well notes, it’s on the cover of every best-selling self-care guidebook, and for most people, the notion of positivity as a serious and driving force for both physical and mental health is not only wildly impersonal, but also almost insulting. At least, at first glance. But there is a genuine importance to positivity on a clinical level and thinking positively about something can have a crucial effect on its progress, within the proper context.

It’s important to differentiate the urge to practice and preach a positive mindset within the context of mental illness treatment and addiction treatment from the impersonal and nearly boorish call to simply ‘think positive’ as a solution to one’s problems.

Positivity isn’t magical, and like motivation, it requires genuine work to cultivate and maintain, both from patients and their healthcare professionals. And just like motivation, it suffers from the same misconception that both need to originate solely within the minds and hearts of those who are struggling with issues such as addiction and depression to begin with.

As we delve into what it means to use positivity effectively, it’s important to keep in mind the numerous factors that often influence the development of addiction, and remember how, conversely, it’s negativity that often plays a hand in worsening both the physical and mental elements of substance use disorders.


What Does It Mean to Think Positive? 

The brain is a powerful organ, far more powerful than we may give it credit for. On a philosophical level, every aspect of reality passes through the brain before we recognize it, and everything we see is, undoubtedly, molded and shaped at least partially by our preconceptions and beliefs. We see the world through our own lens, and regardless of how impartial we aim to be, we cannot separate ourselves from the experiences we’ve made.

That, in turn, affects everything. It all compounds together, and many of the decisions we make about the world around us – the judgments we meet and the opinions we form – are years in the making, influenced by experiences that we had no part in causing, formed without free will but by chance and happenstance.

Trying to control that is what brings us a ‘mindset’. While we are in large part a sum of internal and external factors, we can practice influencing how we react to the things that happen to us. We can work on feeling grateful for the good in our lives. We can work on learning to separate ourselves from elements that clearly cause us harm and unnecessary stress.

We cannot always use a mindset to cut away at what’s difficult and uncomfortable. Everyone struggles with different circumstances, many of which we cannot control. Some people are born with differences both psychologically and physiologically, differences that might make them more prone to depressive thoughts or addictive behavior. Some people have an easier time being an optimist.

But we can, with practice, learn to mitigate some of these problems in our lives and apply positivity. Not alone, but with help – through medication, through therapy, through treatment, through healthier relationships, through healthier habits, through healthier friendships. These things don’t guarantee a more positive outlook, but they make it possible to begin forming one.


Past Platitudes and Empty Words

For some, it’s not enough to stand in-front of a mirror and be self-affirming. It might be that a technique like that simply doesn’t work for you. You might find it ridiculous, and just can’t take it seriously. But there are many ways to apply a more positive mindset in your life.

Start by catching yourself when you begin to express self-doubt. If you struggle to convince yourself to stop doubting yourself, speak up about your anxieties to a close friend who knows what you are going through. By seeking encouragement and affirmation through those close to us, we can mitigate some of our own negative thoughts and begin to combat them through the positivity of others around us.

More than just empty words, these thoughts can have a genuine impact. Research shows that negativity and depression increase the perception of physical pain, slows healing and recovery, and contributes to a host of both physical and mental ailments, including addiction. Making everyday improvements to how you think about yourself and the world around you does more than just make you a little happier – it could make you a little healthier, too.


It’s No Replacement for Therapy and Treatment 

No one should advocate for concepts such as positivity and healthier living as end-all-be-all solutions for physical or mental illnesses. Substance use disorder is a diagnosable illness, caused by repeated and unavoidable drug use, often as a result of or in conjunction with other conditions.

For people who struggle with chronic addiction, polysubstance abuse, and dual diagnoses, there is no effective replacement for treatment and therapy. Some might grow out of their condition, but others are stuck in cycles of relapse and self-doubt.

A positive mindset can be tremendously useful in the recovery process, both during treatment and in the many months, years, and decades to come.


How a Mindset Inspires Action

We think, then we do – ideally, at least. A positive mindset can inspire us to be more open to new experiences, discovering newer ways to deal with the challenges we face in life, and finding ways to continue remaining committed to sobriety without the threat of relapse.

A positive mindset can help us avoid making hasty judgments when it comes to meeting new people, often discovering ways of life we might not have previously been exposed to. A positive mindset can help us get things done faster.

But a positive mindset is not infinitely manageable. You will have bad days. You will have slow days. It is important to be patient with yourself and recognize that recovery from addiction, as with any chronic condition, is ultimately a difficult and uphill battle, and progress should only be traced over the long-term rather than the chaotic day-to-day.

Seek help in cultivating and maintaining positivity through professional help and close friends and family. Know that, when you can’t be positive, it’s okay to rely on others. And understand that seeing life in a better light is not a solution to addiction, but a supplemental tool in combatting the mental and physical effects of long-term drug use and mental illness.


Handling Family During Recovery

Handling Family During Recovery

Drug addiction is an illness that affects a sizeable portion of the adult population, making it no surprise that nearly half of Americans have either a close friend or family member who is or has been addicted to drugs. More than an illness based on choice, addiction is an illness of chance, not something to be blamed on morality (or lack thereof), but something to be attributed to a mixture of environmental stressors, genetic factors, and the availability of drugs (from alcohol to Xanax and illicit opioids).

Yet while addiction continues to be misunderstood and often misattributed to only the vile and the evil, it’s our best friends, our parents, our children, our uncles and our aunts who become addicted to drugs for one reason or another. Some become addicted because of a broken leg. Others become addicted after a broken heart. The reasons are countless, but thankfully, the options for treatment are nearly as plentiful.

Addiction treatment today has evolved into a sizable repertoire of therapies and techniques that can be applied not only to individuals, but to groups as well. Experts and doctors understand that to effectively treat an addiction, two things must be taken into consideration. First, addiction is a chronic illness, and a focus should be placed on managing it, rather than looking for an impossible cure. Second, addiction doesn’t occur within a vacuum, and every case must be evaluated for any and all contributing factors, working to determine a person’s mental and physical health, medical history, family history, relationships, job security, and more. A big part of effectively treating addiction is tackling it as a family.


Addiction as a Family Disease

There are several factors that go towards describing addiction as a ‘family disease’. For one, addiction does run in the family. Inheritability is a factor for addiction, as research shows that individuals with a family history of a certain kind of addiction are more likely to develop said addiction. This may be in part because their genes make them particularly vulnerable to drug use, or because of the environment created by growing up alongside a display of drug use and addiction.

On the other hand, having an addict in the family affects everyone. More so than many other illnesses, addiction can come with a long list of tragedies attached to it. Addiction can wreck a family financially, emotionally, and physically faster than many other crises. And as such, it’s also important to recognize the critical role that a family plays in addressing and treating addiction.

Assigning blame in most cases of addiction is meaningless. There are too many factors to concretely point the finger at any one single cause for all this pain, and the opioid crisis alone has grown into such a massive behemoth that policy changes are not enough to properly quell the issue. It has to be addressed at home, within the community, in schools and town halls, and across the country, with a focus on providing genuinely effective physical and mental healthcare to those affected by the disease, meaning both the addicts and their loved ones.


Considering Family Therapy

One option for helping families better connect with their loved ones in recovery and better contribute to their fight against addiction is to employ family therapy. Family therapy involves the family in the healing process, addressing issues at home through the expertise and guidance of an experienced third party, and helping families develop techniques to deal with the challenges presented by addiction. As per the SAMHSA, one clear goal of family therapy is help families “become aware of their own needs and aid in the goal of keeping substance abuse from moving from one generation to another.”

For family therapy to be effective, a family has to be ready to work together. Not all families are ready to do so. Some families may be split between those ready to help their loved one, and those who feel that the addict should be excluded from the family. There are also cases where a family is little more than blood ties, where relatives hurt one another physically and/or emotionally, and where ‘home’ is a case of ongoing partner abuse.

It’s important to have a more flexible definition of family in these cases. We all need a family, but it need not be our biological one. Addicts who feel endangered by their relatives must seek distance, ideally among friends or other relatives. Toxicity in the family is unfortunately not an uncommon problem and can contribute heavily to an addiction.


Spending More Time Living Together

It’s incredibly easy these days to isolate yourself from family. Regardless of how many family members live, eat, and sleep under the same roof, communication has dropped both in depth and frequency across several generations. For some families, the best way to fight something like an addiction is to incorporate the recovering addict into family life and work together to truly forge family life into something more meaningful.

Begin by planning and making meals together, taking on the daily and weekly tasks of cleaning up as a family, distributing chores but also working on family projects. Nobody likes to be forced to dress up for the annual family photo, but there are other opportunities to come together and genuinely have fun. One option for families with a little more in the yearly budget is to spend time together in an offline vacation. Make it a rule every now and again to keep the phones off.

Being a part of something is important to a recovering addict. It’s important because many struggle to redefine themselves after beginning their recovery, and knowing they are an accepted and meaningful part of their family can help them start somewhere by remembering that no matter what, as a result of having a loving family, and being surrounded by feelings of unconditional love, they will always have a positive identity as a brother, sister, son, daughter, father, or mother.

Having that positive identity to start with can help a recovering addict stay committed to working on themselves, adding to that statement with other things, from worker to passionate artist, athlete, or student.


Know What to Expect

Treating a drug addiction is still a long road. While recovery is effective, it takes time to fully develop the toolset necessary to separate from addiction – and even then, relapses are likely. It’s just as important to learn to overcome relapses and learn from them as it is to choose going into rehab on day one.

As such, there’s some degree of patience needed when helping a loved one going through recovery. Likewise, recovering addicts must understand that their family members will have moments of frustration, and there will be arguments and heated conversations. As long as the core of the family remains intact – the sentiment that everyone is in it together – recovery is survivable in the long-term and may even bring a family further together.


Routines to Help Maintain A Sober Lifestyle

Building Routines In Sober Living

Sobriety needs stability. A steady schedule in recovery gives a recovering addict the framework needed to plot out their sober goals and have a step-by-step path to a better life. To consistently make progress in recovery, it’s important to start establishing routines very early on.

But to have a routine, a recovering addict must cement their goals and figure out the best way to achieve them. What does long-term sobriety entail? What is the bane of addiction, and a boon for recovery? What behavior must be avoided, and what habits are essential to true long-term well being? There are many facets to be considered when designing a routine for a sober lifestyle, and it starts with understanding why stability is so important.


Why Routines Matter in Recovery

A routine is a step-by-step program for any given length of time. Typically, routines account for a portion of the day. People have morning routines, evening routines, sleeping routines, or daily routines. While a schedule refers specifically to the sequential order of events within a set timescale, a routine doesn’t need to limit each step to a specific allotted time slot.

Both are important in recovery, because they offer both structure and limitation. Limitation is important in early recovery, as it keeps a recovering addict’s ‘free time’ on the down low. Sleeping schedules, early morning starts, set eating periods, and work shifts help keep you busy during the days and weeks when cravings are at their worst, and the urge to go back to old habits is still at its strongest.

As recovery gets easier, the need for schedules is diminished, but some structure is always healthy. We know for a fact that it’s better to wake up and go to sleep at set times every day, and that the body likes being used to sleeping, eating, and being active during specific points throughout a given 24-hour cycle. However, routines are eternal. Through routines, anybody can bring major improvement into their lives, minimizing time wasted and maximizing personal growth.

This is especially important for early recovering addicts, but it goes equally for everyone. A good routine can do wonders for a person physically, mentally, emotionally, and socially. Good routines aren’t built on total rigidity, though – they incorporate elements of flexibility, and account for problems, slip-ups, and other occasions.


What a Good Routine Looks Like

A good routine will depend highly on your interests, goals, and abilities. There is no such thing as the universally perfect routine. Some people have sleeping problems. Some people are physically disabled and unable to exercise conventionally. Some people fall asleep when they try to meditate. Some people are limited in the time they can take for themselves due to obligations to their work, family, and therapy.

A good routine should be one you can consistently stick to for months at a time. It’s okay to change your routine as your needs and circumstances change, but if you’re aspiring to hold to a routine you can’t manage to stick with for longer than a month or two, then you need a different routine. Don’t start with the bar way above your head – start somewhere accessible and go from there.

A couple of basic goals that should be achieved when designing a daily routine involve:

  • Having a ritual that helps you get energized in the morning.
  • Incorporating some form of movement throughout the day if you spend most of your time seated or standing still.
  • Having an evening routine that gets you ready for bed and has you fall asleep at roughly the same time each night.
  • Learning something each day, regardless of what it might be, or from where.

Addiction can rob a person of the ability to lead a normal and peaceful life and thrives from the chaos. By bringing a stricter order to your life, you can reintroduce some of the most basic needs that a person can have, including a solid night’s rest, healthy eating habits, daily movement, and something stimulating for the mind.


What a Routine Needs to Be Useful

Good routines differentiate themselves from bad routines insofar that they elicit long lasting change but are still doable daily, but there are a few goalposts that you should aim for when designing a structure for your new sober life.

Consider what changes you’re actually striving to make in your own life and think on how you can contribute each day to making those hopeful changes become a reality. It could be spending your commute, time at the laundromat, or time cleaning the house/apartment listening to a language podcast, history podcast, or other forms of informational content. It could be taking ten minutes every few hours to stretch your spine and hips or do a few gentle exercises to ease your knee pain. It could be aspiring to cook at least half or more of your meals in any given week from scratch. Or, it could be anything else.

We all have our own aspirations, but it’s important to start somewhere. Sobriety is often a person’s second chance at seriously tackling their life from the ground up and determining how they want to spend each subsequent waking minute. This is the perfect opportunity to consider what you’ve always wanted to be able to accomplish, and then set out to try and accomplish it. In other words: to be successful, a routine needs not only to help you account for the basics, but it should help you grow as a person, learn new things, and always strive to improve.


Develop a Plan B

Life is far from ideal, and no amount of planning ever prepares a person for what is going to happen. That’s why flexibility is important. We can’t rely on our plans, schedules, and routines to be followed to a T on any and every given day. Things can happen that force us to shift our priorities at the last second and focus on something entirely else. Alternatively, there’s always the risk that a relapse may occur.

Dealing with these changes requires understanding that they’re bound to happen sometimes, and you must be ready to deal with the aftermath. Routines can help you prepare for relapses, by developing if-then solutions. If you relapse, then you start by contacting your therapist or psychiatrist, look for ways to enter a recovery program or get into a sober living environment, and contact your family members and loved ones about what happened. Furthermore, when certain things get in the way of your planned routines, it’s important not to be too upset. Life happens, and we always need to leave room for when it decides to intrude on our plans.


Finding the Light at the End of the Tunnel That Is Addiction

Light At The End of the Tunnel - Addiction

It’s not easy to convince oneself that everything is going to be ‘fine’, especially with addiction. More than just the urge to use drugs, addiction is a complex condition that can be accurately described as a brain disease, a mental disorder, and a treatable yet debilitating problem. For too many, addiction inspires fear and judgment. Addicts are too often seen as worthless to society, leeching off others and providing nothing but problems. However, addicts are still people, and no matter how far gone they might seem, there’s always still hope that they can be helped to live and feel like normal human beings again.

If you or someone you know ever struggled with an addiction, then you’ll know that most of what people think and say about drug addicts is false at best, and deeply hurtful at worst. One of the reasons so few addicts get the help they need is because they’re ashamed of themselves, and are scared of going clean, fearing that treatment just won’t work and they’ll be made to confront all their feelings rather than pursuing the next opportunity to go numb again. There are many other reasons, but stigma and self-stigma are two very powerful factors that come into play again and again.

To help an addict see the light at the end of the tunnel, they must be made to understand that they are not alone in this journey, and that treatment is always an option.


A Whole Community Awaits

You are not alone. Roughly 21 million US adults are estimated to struggle with drug addiction in a given moment. A significant portion of that statistic is in recovery: a survey in 2012 showed that, at the time, a whopping 23.5 million adult Americans – one in ten – went through recovery and were no longer using after struggling with a drug or alcohol addiction.

Every day, millions of individuals rally together in group meetings or sober living homes to talk about the challenges they’ve faced, and how they worked to overcome them, or how they failed, and learned from their failures to do better in the future.

Recovery isn’t just possible – it’s necessary. The only way to move past an addiction is to seek and maintain sobriety or succumb to the effects of long-term drug use. Thankfully, this is not a journey you have to venture on alone. Through online recovery resources, local recovery groups, sober living homes, rehab clinics, professional addiction specialists, and therapists, you can have access to as much or as little help as you need for your long-term sobriety.

The hardest part is making that first leap to start your recovery. Rehab clinics are a good place to start, as they are often prepared with the personnel and equipment to lead an addict through withdrawal, early recovery, and the transition into a sober life.


How Addiction Treatment Works

Many addicts struggle to have faith in addiction treatment, especially if they feel overwhelmed by their addiction and don’t quite understand how it functions. While it is true that we haven’t quite found a pill to turn addiction ‘off’, there are various forms of medication, therapy, and treatment techniques to address each and every kind of drug addiction currently imaginable.

For certain types of addiction, medication can be used to wean an addict off their drug of choice and make it easier to transition into recovery, in contrast to going ‘cold turkey’ and experiencing extreme withdrawal symptoms and cravings. Medication also exists to counteract the effects of certain drugs, making it impossible to get high, essentially rendering a substance as useless to an addict. Such medication can also be used to save lives in the case of an overdose, in some cases.

Special forms of therapy and rigorous lifestyle changes are used to help an addict better understand why they became addicted, how to identify and avoid the behaviors and activities that make them want to use drugs again and reinforce better habits that help undermine addiction in the brain. Both one-on-one talk therapy and group therapy can help a recovering addict feel better about their condition and learn to avoid thoughts and situations that further feed the addiction. Outside of rehab, other post-rehab programs are used to help recoverees further develop the mental fortitude needed to succeed in sober life, through sober living homes, outpatient recovery programs, and more.


The Benefits of Paying It Forward

Redemption is a powerful thing, especially in the eyes of oneself, as we’re likely to have more debts to our own conscience than to anyone else. Because of the staying power that stigma commands in a person’s life, it’s important to seek out ways to eradicate that shame and guilt. One effective path is to simply do good. There is no easier way to prove to yourself that you still have the potential to be a positive influence in the lives of others – especially those you love – than to do good. And one way in which all recovering addicts can do good is by helping other addicts take the first steps to recovery.

Through group meetings, through talking about the challenges you faced and overcome, through writing about your experiences and educating addicts and their families about the truth of addiction and how it can be overcome, you can make a slow and steady difference in the world around you and change the lives of countless people for the better. All it takes is to convince just one person that they should consider giving sobriety and recovery treatment an honest try. The positive repercussions of such an act are often immense. And finally, it just feels good to do good. We’re not exactly a species to be morally exalted, but there is some truth to the notion that altruism has its place in human nature. And doing your part to shape your community for the better can leave you feeling reinvigorated with faith in your own capacity to do selfless things, despite a seemingly selfish past.

Motivating Yourself to Continue Your Sobriety

Motivating Yourself To Continue Sobriety

Motivation is important for recovery. No matter how expensive or qualitative your drug addiction treatment ends up being, its effectiveness at least partially depends on your willingness to commit to the changes you’ve made in your life. Other factors matter as well, such as how applicable the treatment is to your issues, and the support you get from friends and loved ones when willpower alone isn’t enough to get you through the day. But if your heart isn’t in it, you’ll be hard-pressed to continue being sober.

For most people going through a recovery program, the motivation to stay sober starts out at an all-time high and only begins to fade as time goes on. This is especially difficult for first-time recoverees, as they start out motivated for the journey ahead yet begin to lose motivation in their own sobriety around the same time that they feel they’re finally ‘through’ with all of their recovery work. This results in finding yourself practically alone and without any set structure to rely on as you begin to struggle with emotions and thoughts surrounding old habits and potential relapses.

That is precisely why so many insist that recovery is a lifelong process. It doesn’t end with getting out of rehab. It doesn’t end after finishing your outpatient recovery program. It’s not over the day you decide to move out of that sober home and back into an apartment or house of your own. Recovery and sobriety are lifelong commitments, and as such, they require a lifetime of work. But that doesn’t have to be a condemnation or a bad thing – working on your recovery can be fulfilling and can be an important step to figuring out how you want to define yourself in sobriety.


Why Did You Go Sober?

When in doubt, it’s important to return to the root cause. What drove you to seek out help to begin with? What was the moment when you realized you need to step up and sober up? What thought fueled the realization that you must make a choice between dying through drug use or making better use of your time on this ball in space?

There are countless potential reasons, and everyone has their own personal reason. Some did it for their children. Some did it for a partner. Some did it for the family. Some did it for friends. Or to keep a dream job. Or because they feared death. Or because they realized how terrible they felt physically. Or because they had to get out the relationship that drove them to that point.

All of these reasons are valid, and it’s critical you find yours and never let go of it. Frame it, in your mind or physically. And consider what else drove you to go sober. Make a list of 3-5 reasons why you had to stop taking drugs, and why you felt the need to completely clean – so that whenever you feel like those reasons are slipping away from you, you’ve got the right reference to look them up again.


Why Being Sober is Better

Just as there are countless reasons to stop using drugs, there are countless reasons being sober is better than being addicted. But to go over just a few of them:

You’ll feel better, physically and mentally. Excessive drug use wrecks the mind and body, with serious long-term consequences. It takes time for those wounds to heal, but the difference will be astounding. Not only will you feel better, but you’ll be able to think clearly, sleep properly, and worry less.

You’ll have much more time. Addiction is incredibly time-consuming and expensive, and can rob a person of weeks, months, and years. Many teens who start off getting addicted at a young age find themselves stalling both physically and emotionally, skipping forward in time. Recovering from that loss of time can be brutal, but there is also something very liberating about knowing you now have much more time on your hands. It’s also something you’re more likely to appreciate and use wisely.

Relationships will have meaning again. It’s tough to be in a meaningful and honest relationship with someone when you’re addicted. A big part of addiction is the inability to truly control your urges and cravings, and that often leads to a complete lack of trust both in yourself, and on your partner’s end, feeling that you’ve lost trustworthiness. But with the ability to be honest and remain true to your commitments, you have the potential to develop beautiful relationships and friendships with those you love and care about.

You can give back and help others heal. The recovery process is different for everybody, but there’s something to learn from each and every story. As unlikely as you might think it, there’s potential for your story to be the one to help someone else make the right choice and commit to sobriety. You can give back to the community and people who helped you heal by continuing to help them stop addiction in other people’s lives.


Staying Motivated

As your recovery programs draw to a close, it’s important to remember that you will have to begin relying on yourself to stay motivated. Not all the time – there will be days or weeks when you just need help, and that’s perfectly okay – but there’s no question about the fact that you do have to continue putting the work into your recovery, even years after going sober.

Work is not a dirty word, and it’s time to embrace the fact that work can feel good, even when it’s objectively hard. As humans, we don’t necessarily thrive in setting that requires us to be on vacation 100% of the time. Neither do we thrive under the pressure of constant crunch time. But when we’re working, day in and day out, for something we believe in, we feel that we’re pursuing and fulfilling a purpose in life, and that every hour spent awake has meaning.

Believe in your recovery. Pursue a better life for yourself and those around you knowing that it’s through your efforts that you’ve come this far, away from the bad old days. And know that even when you stumble or fall, it won’t be as difficult to get back on your feet.

Everyone Can Recover from Addiction – It’s Never Too Late

It's never too late for recovery

The only moment in time when an addiction is truly too much to recover from is when it causes a person to lose their life. But until that moment comes, every second is another opportunity to start the recovery process. No life is too far gone to heal, no matter what others might think.

Addiction stories are highly individual and each one is unique, but they always have a few things in common. Chief among them is the fact that addiction spirals out of control. One day, a teen might pop a tab of molly after a few weeks of drinking. Five years later, they might be in an ER for their second heroin overdose, with no place to stay and no friends or partners to speak of.

The extent to which addiction can lead to tragedy and total devastation is well known. Yet for many of those people who find themselves recounting such life-threatening experiences at the hands of an uncontrollable addiction and constant state of depression, life also eventually changed. They found a purpose, reason, or moment wherein things pivoted, and they finally embraced sobriety. And years after the fact, they can look upon those memories and see them as teaching moments on a long path of struggles and challenges.

No matter how bad things get, sobriety is always an option. Recovery is always an option. But the journey is going to be different for each person. The why and how will be different for everyone. And in many cases, it’s important to show a resilience to failure and expect many setbacks.


It’s Never Too Late

Drug addiction develops as a progressive disorder, feeding on a person’s unwillingness to seek help by pushing them into isolation and profiting off the subsequent despair. It’s in our worst moments that we seek comfort, and for an addict, that comfort is often the contents of a pill, needle, or pipe. And when that comfort wears off and leaves nothing but a gaping hole and even more pain, the most attractive way to cope ends up being more drug use.

This self-destructive and nigh-perpetual cycle doesn’t have to go on forever, though. By seeking professional help, any addict can seize the opportunity to get better, regardless of how far they feel they’ve fallen, and regardless of how far away the light might seem.

Rather than giving up on the possibility of recovery, it’s important not to lose sight of the fact that it is possible for anyone to recover, given the right support and compassion.


You Don’t Have to Wait

For some, there’s a misconception about addiction that the best time to seek help is once you’ve hit ‘rock bottom’, and that until then, it isn’t effective to either get help for yourself or engage in an intervention for a loved one. While it’s true that different people come to different conclusions during ‘moments of clarity’, the real best time to get help for an addiction is as soon as possible. Waiting for the rock bottom does no one any favors and is more likely to end in tragedy.

Any story of addiction can end in a triumphant recovery. It’s never a pretty story, and there are always elements of regret and guilt to every addict’s journey, but no matter how far one has fallen, recovery is possible at every single junction. Sometimes, it takes certain events for a person to finally learn the lessons they need to learn in order to successfully commit to recovery and stay sober. Sometimes, recovery begins and ends in relapse, several times over, before long-term sobriety eventually becomes realized.

Nevertheless, no matter what kind of journey any given individual in recovery is going to experience, the single most important thing is to never give up on the goal of completely overcoming the past and living a healthy and successful drug-free life. No matter how many years it takes, no matter how many attempts one goes through, the hope recovery only dies when the recovering addict gives up.


The First Weeks

The first few weeks are often the hardest, and they’re critical in the sense that they can make or break a person’s recovery, either propelling them into months and years of sobriety, or leading them slowly into a total breakdown and return to old habits.

It’s important to stick to strictly structured forms of recovery in those first few weeks, as it becomes increasingly difficult to rely on your will when you’re bombarded by drastic mood shifts, overwhelming cravings and deeply uncomfortable withdrawal symptoms as a result of your decision to go live drug-free and get clean. A sober living home or rehab clinic can put you in touch with the medical attention you need to make it through the worst of withdrawal, before relocating you to a facility where you get to live with others who have gone through similar journeys of addiction in their lives, with unique perspectives and circumstances.

For many, that’s a big wake up call. Knowing you’re not alone can make a big difference in recovery, but it’s also interesting and helpful to hear other people speak about addiction and further explain how they were able to deal with challenges similar to those that you have faced, are facing, or likely will face. There is much to be learned from the experiences of others in recovery, despite the differences you might find.


Surviving Relapses

Even among the more diligent, it’s fairly common to relapse within the first twelve months. Rather than a sign of weakness, relapses are part of the recovery process. They highlight the point that physical dependence and addiction are progressive, chronic illnesses, requiring intensive and ongoing treatment.

Because addiction also affects people so individually, a relapse is a good opportunity to discover what may be lacking in your addiction treatment. With the help of a therapist, a relapse can be turned into a learning experience, a lesson to further improve and solidify your commitment to sobriety.


Why Ongoing Support Is Critical

Even after all the programs, sober living experiences, and rehab therapy sessions are over, ongoing support matters. Whether just through friends and family, or through group meetings, local recovery organizations, or continued help from a professional, ongoing support is what keeps every recoveree on track for years to come.

It’s easy to eventually lose sight of what you’ve learned during recovery and fall back onto old ways when the going gets really tough, which is why it’s important to have safeguards in place to help keep you from that path whenever you might feel tempted. While it does get easier to resist the temptation of addiction the longer you stay sober, especially if you’ve been building a sober life for yourself, we all need support to make it through the bad weeks, addiction or no.


Being Goal Oriented in Your Recovery

Being goal Oriented In Recovery

The recovery process has no clear end and lasts a lifetime. While there are ways to define what might be the end of an addiction, and there are plenty of recovery programs with a well-defined beginning and ending, recovery itself – the process of recovering from an addiction – doesn’t strictly have a final end goal besides not succumbing to addiction again, which is a lifelong restriction rather than a goal.

And as it turns out, being goal oriented as we are, restrictions are much harder for humans to stick to, without the proper motivation.


Why Goals Matter

Goals are important for every man and woman, and without them, we would be aimless. Our day-to-day lives are made up of schedules and objectives, with weekly goals and monthly aims, and lifetime dreams. Without goals, we lose sight of not only who we want to be, but who we are as well. Many people define themselves by what they pursue, and it makes them happy to pursue it.

But there’s an additional quality to having a goal that makes being goal oriented so important in drug recovery. And that is our need to keep ourselves focused. Without a task at hand, our mind drifts, and strays, and in early sobriety, it tends to drift and stray into places we don’t want it to. One of the best ways to deal with the incessant cravings and negativity surrounding early recovery is to seek out and pursue sources of happiness and accomplishment – feelings we hold dear and greatly need after a harrowing period of addiction.

Many addicts feel guilt and shame for what they did, and struggle with a self-esteem that is most likely at an all-time low when they first decide to seek out help. Goals are not just there to give us something to aim for, but they’re there to give us a sense of pride once we’ve overcome them. We take pause after accomplishing a goal to relish and celebrate, before moving on.

In recovery, you need successes. You need to understand that no matter how you feel about the mistakes you’ve made in the past, you still have the capacity to do things right, and to get where you want to be. The worst thing to imagine as a recovering addict is the idea that the damage you’ve done to yourself and your life is irreversible – by being goal oriented, you have a chance to prove to yourself that this recovery process is the best thing that every happened to you, and that you can not only get to where you once were, but deftly surpass who you once were in terms of wisdom, health, opportunity, and more. But to do so, you must start with at least one well-defined goal.


What is a Goal?

You would think defining your goals is the easy part, but it’s likely not as straightforward as you might think. A goal has to be achievable, concrete, and laid out in a fashion that the path to said goal is visible – not necessarily within your immediate grasp, but visible enough that you know you can reach it. A bad goal is vague, idealistic, totally uncompromising, and out of touch with reality.

Take goals related to weight loss. For an obese man, it would be unrealistic to start with a goal of 5 percent bodyfat, a level at which the body is on the verge of approaching the absolute minimum amount of bodyfat needed to function. On the other hand, a noncommittal goal to simply ‘lose a few pounds’ would be equally ineffective.

Instead, consider a healthy amount of monthly weight loss for an obese man at a 500-calorie deficit, and set a six-month goal. The deficit, alongside a small list of food restrictions and a daily exercise plan – beginning with brisk walks, and eventually graduating to more challenging workouts – will lead to realistic and appreciable weight loss, provided that a disciplined attempt is made alongside emotional and physical help from friends and family.

The differences between the first, second, and third examples lie in the details and planning of each goal. Figure out what it is you care about the most, formulate an achievable end-result you’re happy with within a realistic timeframe, and have a plan for how you can begin making daily changes to reach your goal in time.


Why Do These Goals Matter to You?

Goals should be something you’re passionate about. Weight loss is a common New Year’s Resolution kind of goal, but if that’s not the first thing you care about, it shouldn’t be your primary goal. A few good goals to consider would be:

  • Getting a promotion/raise.
  • Saving up X amount each month to invest.
  • Dropping down to Z pounds.
  • Beating a personal record in a sport or activity after being out of shape.
  • Matching your old physical feats.
  • Saving up/planning for a quick trip abroad within the next year.
  • Gaining a certification/passing an important career-relevant examination.
  • Read a new book every week.

These goals are not recovery-oriented, but that is because recovery is best seen as a process that happens alongside life. Endeavor to make changes to your lifestyle, make new friends, and make strides in your professional career – and you’ll have your hands full, too full to worry about relapsing before you hit your one-year mark. In other words, to achieve your addiction-related goals, simply pursue what you love and care about, make progress by working on yourself and your aspirations, and let the healing happen.


Small Steps First

Big strides are admirable, but goals are only effective when they’re realistic and achievable. Take whatever goal you deem most important and consider what you need to start doing on a daily basis to make this goal happen. Inquire with a superior at your company to see what is expected of an employee aiming for a better position. Do the math on how much of what you’re earning you’ll have to stow away to start saving money. Figure out where in your schedule you can best fit in a workout session to help you regain your lost fitness.

Once you have the goal in mind, figure out what it takes to get from A to Z, and make yourself a list of B, C, D, etc.


Your Goals Are Your Priorities

It’s important not to forget that living ‘goal oriented’ means not only pursuing goals because they’re something you’d like to imagine you could do, but because the subject of your goal is an absolute priority in your life. If you feel your health is genuinely a concern or if you feel that your mood and mental well-being are affected by poor lifestyle choices, then making changes to the way you treat your body becomes a priority worthy of serious planning. If you feel your life requires more attention put towards your career and financial future, prioritize such goals. Be clear with what you feel your priorities are, and plan accordingly.